We Met Long-Distance. When Is The Right Time To Have Lovemaking?

Can you indeed determine to sleep with someone before you've ever met in person?

I get this e-mail all the time, yet I seem to always be writing posts about it that no one seems to be reading. Time to let go and clarify this one last time!

Recently I got an e-mail that said:

I’ve been talking with this man online for three months.

He’s ultimately going to come and visit me.

Should we sleep in separate rooms? Shall I have hookup with him?

I’m so confused. I don’t know what to do.

This is what I have to say, Lucy.

That, to me, is like many dates. Hopefully you’ve gotten a lot of pictures of him. You send him pictures of you. Hopefully all pictures were current, because if you don’t look exactly like your pictures, then neither one of you is going to sleep with anybody except yourselves.

That’s one thing I want to warn all of you about. A lot of you have these online long-distance relationships that go on and on and on, but the only way these relationships will ever turn into something is if you represent yourselves exactly as you truly look!

What’s this mean? Every picture you send is a picture you took today. Every picture he sends is a picture he took today. You don’t want to find out that he’s forty pounds stronger and bald, even tho’ he had a total head of hair and looks like a youthfull Marlon Brando in the picture, and you don’t want to be sending him pictures of yourself when you were skinny when now you’re two hundred pounds overweight. Maybe I’m exaggerating here, but you get my drift.

The thing is, when you very first meet someone you’ve been talking with online, the very first thing he’s going to do as a masculine is look at you up and down and say to himself, "Thank God man, she looks like her pictures." If you don’t look like your picture, then we’re going to retreat. Fellows are very visual.

The best way to get to a man is to appeal to his visual sense. So if he feels like he’s been deceived, he’s not going to want to sleep in any room with you. As a matter of fact, he might put you in the bunk bed by his brother. Or he might put you in the closet. I know I’m getting a little extreme here, but it’s true!

The problem is a lot of women are out of touch with their sexy side. I don’t know how it happened, but what a lot of women do is send their three best pictures over and over again, when in reality, you should be on Skype with these guys long distance. Standing there naked, literally undressing for them (if you want to go that route and have a little bit of Skype joy), displaying them your entire bod, who you are, what you look like, sending them pictures every single day in order to flirt. Because then the long distance relationship will turn into a joy relationship because when they ultimately see you, they’re super, super excited because they’ve seen all of you.

When you have hookup with him is not up to me at all. That’s up to you! That’s up to your intuition. Your gut. And nobody can tell you to sleep with him, because you can’t make the decision ahead of time. When you eventually do meet him, you might feel just that friendship vibe with him and you might end up meeting a indeed good friend, somebody who you like for a long time. You never know until you’re someone’s friend what you’re going to feel and what you desire, and what you want. There is no way in the world you can make that decision until he gets there, until you’re in the same room together and you feel the sexual energy—or you don’t.

Here’s the deal. You can’t make a decision before somebody comes if you’re going to sleep with them. Because when you meet them, you might just get a friend vibe. You may not realize that when you are flirting online!

And that’s what it comes down to. When you meet somebody for the very very first time, it doesn’t matter how much you’ve talked to them online or via Skype. Feeling somebody’s energy in person, that’s how you make a decision if you’re ready to sleep with them or not.

You might end up being good friends with this person. You may not even like them in person.

So you’re getting too far ahead. All you need to do when it comes down to something like this is to remain present. Remain present, so you’re ultimately meeting somebody after three months of flirting. And the rest will take care of itself.

If you want to have hookup, go for it. If you want to just be friends, go for it. If you don’t like them after a day, kick them out. Just be fair and authentic with yourself and see what happens!

When Is Right Time For Lovemaking In A Long-Distance Relationship, David Wygant, YourTango

We Met Long-Distance. When Is The Right Time To Have Hook-up?

Can you truly determine to sleep with someone before you've ever met in person?

I get this e-mail all the time, yet I seem to always be writing posts about it that no one seems to be reading. Time to let go and clarify this one last time!

Recently I got an e-mail that said:

I’ve been talking with this dude online for three months.

He’s ultimately going to come and visit me.

Should we sleep in separate rooms? Shall I have lovemaking with him?

I’m so confused. I don’t know what to do.

This is what I have to say, Lucy.

That, to me, is like many dates. Hopefully you’ve gotten a lot of pictures of him. You send him pictures of you. Hopefully all pictures were current, because if you don’t look exactly like your pictures, then neither one of you is going to sleep with anybody except yourselves.

That’s one thing I want to warn all of you about. A lot of you have these online long-distance relationships that go on and on and on, but the only way these relationships will ever turn into something is if you represent yourselves exactly as you truly look!

What’s this mean? Every picture you send is a picture you took today. Every picture he sends is a picture he took today. You don’t want to find out that he’s forty pounds stronger and bald, even however he had a total head of hair and looks like a youthfull Marlon Brando in the picture, and you don’t want to be sending him pictures of yourself when you were skinny when now you’re two hundred pounds overweight. Maybe I’m exaggerating here, but you get my drift.

The thing is, when you very first meet someone you’ve been talking with online, the very first thing he’s going to do as a masculine is look at you up and down and say to himself, "Thank God man, she looks like her pictures." If you don’t look like your picture, then we’re going to retreat. Guys are very visual.

The best way to get to a man is to appeal to his visual sense. So if he feels like he’s been deceived, he’s not going to want to sleep in any room with you. As a matter of fact, he might put you in the bunk bed by his brother. Or he might put you in the closet. I know I’m getting a little extreme here, but it’s true!

The problem is a lot of women are out of touch with their sexy side. I don’t know how it happened, but what a lot of women do is send their three best pictures over and over again, when in reality, you should be on Skype with these guys long distance. Standing there naked, literally disrobing for them (if you want to go that route and have a little bit of Skype joy), demonstrating them your entire figure, who you are, what you look like, sending them pictures every single day in order to flirt. Because then the long distance relationship will turn into a joy relationship because when they ultimately see you, they’re super, super excited because they’ve seen all of you.

When you have hookup with him is not up to me at all. That’s up to you! That’s up to your intuition. Your gut. And nobody can tell you to sleep with him, because you can’t make the decision ahead of time. When you ultimately do meet him, you might feel just that friendship vibe with him and you might end up meeting a indeed good friend, somebody who you like for a long time. You never know until you’re someone’s friend what you’re going to feel and what you desire, and what you want. There is no way in the world you can make that decision until he gets there, until you’re in the same room together and you feel the sexual energy—or you don’t.

Here’s the deal. You can’t make a decision before somebody comes if you’re going to sleep with them. Because when you meet them, you might just get a friend vibe. You may not realize that when you are flirting online!

And that’s what it comes down to. When you meet somebody for the very very first time, it doesn’t matter how much you’ve talked to them online or via Skype. Feeling somebody’s energy in person, that’s how you make a decision if you’re ready to sleep with them or not.

You might end up being excellent friends with this person. You may not even like them in person.

So you’re getting too far ahead. All you need to do when it comes down to something like this is to remain present. Remain present, so you’re ultimately meeting somebody after three months of flirting. And the rest will take care of itself.

If you want to have lovemaking, go for it. If you want to just be friends, go for it. If you don’t like them after a day, kick them out. Just be fair and authentic with yourself and see what happens!

When Is Right Time For Lovemaking In A Long-Distance Relationship, David Wygant, YourTango

We Met Long-Distance. When Is The Right Time To Have Lovemaking?

Can you indeed determine to sleep with someone before you've ever met in person?

I get this e-mail all the time, yet I seem to always be writing posts about it that no one seems to be reading. Time to let go and clarify this one last time!

Recently I got an e-mail that said:

I’ve been talking with this stud online for three months.

He’s ultimately going to come and visit me.

Should we sleep in separate rooms? Shall I have hookup with him?

I’m so confused. I don’t know what to do.

This is what I have to say, Lucy.

That, to me, is like many dates. Hopefully you’ve gotten a lot of pictures of him. You send him pictures of you. Hopefully all pictures were current, because if you don’t look exactly like your pictures, then neither one of you is going to sleep with anybody except yourselves.

That’s one thing I want to warn all of you about. A lot of you have these online long-distance relationships that go on and on and on, but the only way these relationships will ever turn into something is if you represent yourselves exactly as you truly look!

What’s this mean? Every picture you send is a picture you took today. Every picture he sends is a picture he took today. You don’t want to find out that he’s forty pounds stronger and bald, even however he had a total head of hair and looks like a youthfull Marlon Brando in the picture, and you don’t want to be sending him pictures of yourself when you were skinny when now you’re two hundred pounds overweight. Maybe I’m exaggerating here, but you get my drift.

The thing is, when you very first meet someone you’ve been talking with online, the very first thing he’s going to do as a masculine is look at you up and down and say to himself, "Thank God man, she looks like her pictures." If you don’t look like your picture, then we’re going to retreat. Guys are very visual.

The best way to get to a man is to appeal to his visual sense. So if he feels like he’s been deceived, he’s not going to want to sleep in any room with you. As a matter of fact, he might put you in the bunk bed by his brother. Or he might put you in the closet. I know I’m getting a little extreme here, but it’s true!

The problem is a lot of women are out of touch with their sexy side. I don’t know how it happened, but what a lot of women do is send their three best pictures over and over again, when in reality, you should be on Skype with these guys long distance. Standing there naked, literally unclothing for them (if you want to go that route and have a little bit of Skype joy), displaying them your entire bod, who you are, what you look like, sending them pictures every single day in order to flirt. Because then the long distance relationship will turn into a joy relationship because when they ultimately see you, they’re super, super excited because they’ve seen all of you.

When you have lovemaking with him is not up to me at all. That’s up to you! That’s up to your intuition. Your gut. And nobody can tell you to sleep with him, because you can’t make the decision ahead of time. When you ultimately do meet him, you might feel just that friendship vibe with him and you might end up meeting a truly excellent friend, somebody who you like for a long time. You never know until you’re someone’s friend what you’re going to feel and what you desire, and what you want. There is no way in the world you can make that decision until he gets there, until you’re in the same room together and you feel the sexual energy—or you don’t.

Here’s the deal. You can’t make a decision before somebody comes if you’re going to sleep with them. Because when you meet them, you might just get a friend vibe. You may not realize that when you are flirting online!

And that’s what it comes down to. When you meet somebody for the very very first time, it doesn’t matter how much you’ve talked to them online or via Skype. Feeling somebody’s energy in person, that’s how you make a decision if you’re ready to sleep with them or not.

You might end up being fine friends with this person. You may not even like them in person.

So you’re getting too far ahead. All you need to do when it comes down to something like this is to remain present. Remain present, so you’re eventually meeting somebody after three months of flirting. And the rest will take care of itself.

If you want to have lovemaking, go for it. If you want to just be friends, go for it. If you don’t like them after a day, kick them out. Just be fair and authentic with yourself and see what happens!

When Is Right Time For Hook-up In A Long-Distance Relationship, David Wygant, YourTango

We Met Long-Distance. When Is The Right Time To Have Hookup?

Can you indeed determine to sleep with someone before you've ever met in person?

I get this e-mail all the time, yet I seem to always be writing posts about it that no one seems to be reading. Time to let go and clarify this one last time!

Recently I got an e-mail that said:

I’ve been talking with this dude online for three months.

He’s eventually going to come and visit me.

Should we sleep in separate rooms? Shall I have hook-up with him?

I’m so confused. I don’t know what to do.

This is what I have to say, Lucy.

That, to me, is like many dates. Hopefully you’ve gotten a lot of pictures of him. You send him pictures of you. Hopefully all pictures were current, because if you don’t look exactly like your pictures, then neither one of you is going to sleep with anybody except yourselves.

That’s one thing I want to warn all of you about. A lot of you have these online long-distance relationships that go on and on and on, but the only way these relationships will ever turn into something is if you represent yourselves exactly as you truly look!

What’s this mean? Every picture you send is a picture you took today. Every picture he sends is a picture he took today. You don’t want to find out that he’s forty pounds stronger and bald, even however he had a utter head of hair and looks like a youthful Marlon Brando in the picture, and you don’t want to be sending him pictures of yourself when you were skinny when now you’re two hundred pounds overweight. Maybe I’m exaggerating here, but you get my drift.

The thing is, when you very first meet someone you’ve been talking with online, the very first thing he’s going to do as a masculine is look at you up and down and say to himself, "Thank God man, she looks like her pictures." If you don’t look like your picture, then we’re going to retreat. Studs are very visual.

The best way to get to a man is to appeal to his visual sense. So if he feels like he’s been deceived, he’s not going to want to sleep in any room with you. As a matter of fact, he might put you in the bunk bed by his brother. Or he might put you in the closet. I know I’m getting a little extreme here, but it’s true!

The problem is a lot of women are out of touch with their sexy side. I don’t know how it happened, but what a lot of women do is send their three best pictures over and over again, when in reality, you should be on Skype with these guys long distance. Standing there naked, literally unclothing for them (if you want to go that route and have a little bit of Skype joy), displaying them your entire figure, who you are, what you look like, sending them pictures every single day in order to flirt. Because then the long distance relationship will turn into a joy relationship because when they eventually see you, they’re super, super excited because they’ve seen all of you.

When you have hook-up with him is not up to me at all. That’s up to you! That’s up to your intuition. Your gut. And nobody can tell you to sleep with him, because you can’t make the decision ahead of time. When you eventually do meet him, you might feel just that friendship vibe with him and you might end up meeting a truly excellent friend, somebody who you like for a long time. You never know until you’re someone’s friend what you’re going to feel and what you desire, and what you want. There is no way in the world you can make that decision until he gets there, until you’re in the same room together and you feel the sexual energy—or you don’t.

Here’s the deal. You can’t make a decision before somebody comes if you’re going to sleep with them. Because when you meet them, you might just get a friend vibe. You may not realize that when you are flirting online!

And that’s what it comes down to. When you meet somebody for the very very first time, it doesn’t matter how much you’ve talked to them online or via Skype. Feeling somebody’s energy in person, that’s how you make a decision if you’re ready to sleep with them or not.

You might end up being fine friends with this person. You may not even like them in person.

So you’re getting too far ahead. All you need to do when it comes down to something like this is to remain present. Remain present, so you’re ultimately meeting somebody after three months of flirting. And the rest will take care of itself.

If you want to have lovemaking, go for it. If you want to just be friends, go for it. If you don’t like them after a day, kick them out. Just be fair and authentic with yourself and see what happens!

When Is Right Time For Hook-up In A Long-Distance Relationship, David Wygant, YourTango

We Met Long-Distance. When Is The Right Time To Have Hookup?

Can you truly determine to sleep with someone before you've ever met in person?

I get this e-mail all the time, yet I seem to always be writing posts about it that no one seems to be reading. Time to let go and clarify this one last time!

Recently I got an e-mail that said:

I’ve been talking with this stud online for three months.

He’s ultimately going to come and visit me.

Should we sleep in separate rooms? Shall I have hookup with him?

I’m so confused. I don’t know what to do.

This is what I have to say, Lucy.

That, to me, is like many dates. Hopefully you’ve gotten a lot of pictures of him. You send him pictures of you. Hopefully all pictures were current, because if you don’t look exactly like your pictures, then neither one of you is going to sleep with anybody except yourselves.

That’s one thing I want to warn all of you about. A lot of you have these online long-distance relationships that go on and on and on, but the only way these relationships will ever turn into something is if you represent yourselves exactly as you truly look!

What’s this mean? Every picture you send is a picture you took today. Every picture he sends is a picture he took today. You don’t want to find out that he’s forty pounds stronger and bald, even tho’ he had a total head of hair and looks like a youthfull Marlon Brando in the picture, and you don’t want to be sending him pictures of yourself when you were skinny when now you’re two hundred pounds overweight. Maybe I’m exaggerating here, but you get my drift.

The thing is, when you very first meet someone you’ve been talking with online, the very first thing he’s going to do as a masculine is look at you up and down and say to himself, "Thank God man, she looks like her pictures." If you don’t look like your picture, then we’re going to retreat. Dudes are very visual.

The best way to get to a man is to appeal to his visual sense. So if he feels like he’s been deceived, he’s not going to want to sleep in any room with you. As a matter of fact, he might put you in the bunk bed by his brother. Or he might put you in the closet. I know I’m getting a little extreme here, but it’s true!

The problem is a lot of women are out of touch with their sexy side. I don’t know how it happened, but what a lot of women do is send their three best pictures over and over again, when in reality, you should be on Skype with these guys long distance. Standing there naked, literally unclothing for them (if you want to go that route and have a little bit of Skype joy), showcasing them your entire assets, who you are, what you look like, sending them pictures every single day in order to flirt. Because then the long distance relationship will turn into a joy relationship because when they eventually see you, they’re super, super excited because they’ve seen all of you.

When you have lovemaking with him is not up to me at all. That’s up to you! That’s up to your intuition. Your gut. And nobody can tell you to sleep with him, because you can’t make the decision ahead of time. When you eventually do meet him, you might feel just that friendship vibe with him and you might end up meeting a indeed good friend, somebody who you like for a long time. You never know until you’re someone’s friend what you’re going to feel and what you desire, and what you want. There is no way in the world you can make that decision until he gets there, until you’re in the same room together and you feel the sexual energy—or you don’t.

Here’s the deal. You can’t make a decision before somebody comes if you’re going to sleep with them. Because when you meet them, you might just get a friend vibe. You may not realize that when you are flirting online!

And that’s what it comes down to. When you meet somebody for the very very first time, it doesn’t matter how much you’ve talked to them online or via Skype. Feeling somebody’s energy in person, that’s how you make a decision if you’re ready to sleep with them or not.

You might end up being excellent friends with this person. You may not even like them in person.

So you’re getting too far ahead. All you need to do when it comes down to something like this is to remain present. Remain present, so you’re eventually meeting somebody after three months of flirting. And the rest will take care of itself.

If you want to have lovemaking, go for it. If you want to just be friends, go for it. If you don’t like them after a day, kick them out. Just be fair and authentic with yourself and see what happens!

When Is Right Time For Hook-up In A Long-Distance Relationship, David Wygant, YourTango

We Met Long-Distance. When Is The Right Time To Have Hookup?

Can you truly determine to sleep with someone before you've ever met in person?

I get this e-mail all the time, yet I seem to always be writing posts about it that no one seems to be reading. Time to let go and clarify this one last time!

Recently I got an e-mail that said:

I’ve been talking with this boy online for three months.

He’s eventually going to come and visit me.

Should we sleep in separate rooms? Shall I have hook-up with him?

I’m so confused. I don’t know what to do.

This is what I have to say, Lucy.

That, to me, is like many dates. Hopefully you’ve gotten a lot of pictures of him. You send him pictures of you. Hopefully all pictures were current, because if you don’t look exactly like your pictures, then neither one of you is going to sleep with anybody except yourselves.

That’s one thing I want to warn all of you about. A lot of you have these online long-distance relationships that go on and on and on, but the only way these relationships will ever turn into something is if you represent yourselves exactly as you indeed look!

What’s this mean? Every picture you send is a picture you took today. Every picture he sends is a picture he took today. You don’t want to find out that he’s forty pounds stronger and bald, even however he had a total head of hair and looks like a youthful Marlon Brando in the picture, and you don’t want to be sending him pictures of yourself when you were skinny when now you’re two hundred pounds overweight. Maybe I’m exaggerating here, but you get my drift.

The thing is, when you very first meet someone you’ve been talking with online, the very first thing he’s going to do as a masculine is look at you up and down and say to himself, "Thank God man, she looks like her pictures." If you don’t look like your picture, then we’re going to retreat. Boys are very visual.

The best way to get to a man is to appeal to his visual sense. So if he feels like he’s been deceived, he’s not going to want to sleep in any room with you. As a matter of fact, he might put you in the bunk bed by his brother. Or he might put you in the closet. I know I’m getting a little extreme here, but it’s true!

The problem is a lot of women are out of touch with their sexy side. I don’t know how it happened, but what a lot of women do is send their three best pictures over and over again, when in reality, you should be on Skype with these guys long distance. Standing there naked, literally disrobing for them (if you want to go that route and have a little bit of Skype joy), showcasing them your entire figure, who you are, what you look like, sending them pictures every single day in order to flirt. Because then the long distance relationship will turn into a joy relationship because when they eventually see you, they’re super, super excited because they’ve seen all of you.

When you have hookup with him is not up to me at all. That’s up to you! That’s up to your intuition. Your gut. And nobody can tell you to sleep with him, because you can’t make the decision ahead of time. When you eventually do meet him, you might feel just that friendship vibe with him and you might end up meeting a truly excellent friend, somebody who you like for a long time. You never know until you’re someone’s friend what you’re going to feel and what you desire, and what you want. There is no way in the world you can make that decision until he gets there, until you’re in the same room together and you feel the sexual energy—or you don’t.

Here’s the deal. You can’t make a decision before somebody comes if you’re going to sleep with them. Because when you meet them, you might just get a friend vibe. You may not realize that when you are flirting online!

And that’s what it comes down to. When you meet somebody for the very very first time, it doesn’t matter how much you’ve talked to them online or via Skype. Feeling somebody’s energy in person, that’s how you make a decision if you’re ready to sleep with them or not.

You might end up being fine friends with this person. You may not even like them in person.

So you’re getting too far ahead. All you need to do when it comes down to something like this is to remain present. Remain present, so you’re eventually meeting somebody after three months of flirting. And the rest will take care of itself.

If you want to have hook-up, go for it. If you want to just be friends, go for it. If you don’t like them after a day, kick them out. Just be fair and authentic with yourself and see what happens!

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