Never checks email in front of you

Closes any website/window as soon as you walk into the room (one-off or habitually, it’s suspicious).

Furtive or secretive texting or phone calls

Always takes his calls out of the room or out of your earshot

Often “misses” calls on purpose when around you (may be accompanied by a covering statement to lead you astray: “It’s my cousin. I’ll call him back later”).

If he does response, says “I’m with a friend” or something similar, never mentioning your name.

Doesn’t reaction phone all night. When approached the next day he says he was asleep, phone was dead/on stimulate, or he left it somewhere.

Many boys are skilled at leading women on or maintaining contact for potential cheating via text or BBM and are quick to cover their tracks by deleting messages they send. If you see flirtatious texts from other women, do not assume the conversation is one way.

Earrings that are not yours, found in his home or car. He may even call you to ask if a pair of earrings are yours, and when you say they are not, backtrack to say they may be guys’ earrings anyway.

Empty condom wrappers that he did not use with you in a bag that belongs to him.

A hotel receipt in a bag that belongs to him, for a hotel stay at which you were not present.

A cinema ticket for a film you didn’t see with him.

When confronted with this type of physical evidence, he may come up with an impromptu lie, e.g. “It’s not mine, it’s my friend’s.” These lies may be more elaborate depending upon how desperate he is to disguise the cheating (See also: Lies Upon Being Found Out ).

We are soliciting other examples of behaviour, social patterns or other evidence you’ve seen in fellows who cheat to help us expand this article and provide extra examples for women to use to assess their own situations. Leave them in the comments and we’ll add them to the list.

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do yall have any insight from a lgbtq perspective? your articles aim to address and challenge patriarchy, but are also enormously heteronormative at the same time. i find it a bit counter-productive to go after one oppression but promote another.

Thank you for your response. As you have noted, in the month in which this blog has been live, we have posted a few articles addressed to women who have intimate/romantic relationships with boys. However, our articles are not intended for solely hetero women, nor are they written by them. While it may seem to some readers that any discussion of some male-female relationship dynamics, such as those we describe in the “How to Tell if Your Man is Cheating” Series (the title of which was intentionally selected to enable us to intervene in heteronormative discourse) and “5 Dudes to Avoid,” is inherently heteronormative, it emerges to us that this view is reductionist, as it does not consider that the female-identifying audience it addresses may also, like us, be sexually oriented to more than just studs. We believe that by employing a radical critique of the hetero-norms of patriarchy and sexism as well as the concept of “standing by your man” if/when he cheats or otherwise displays sexist misogyny and manhandle, our work is actively challenging the vastly more common and hetero-normative advice to women regarding how to “catch” and “keep” a man.

As bisexual women, we make it a point in the About section of our blog to explicitly state that we “can envision a world in which all of earth’s inhabitants, women, dudes, trans, intersex and gender non-specific people of all colours, sexual orientations, religions, abilities and creeds, all humans and all other species, are free to live in non-hierarchical harmony with each other.” We have also compiled an extensive list of resources to which people may refer for more detailed radical information, in which Gender and Sexiness is the very first section: https://sistersofresistance.wordpress.com/resources/#gendersex (The opening movie is about homophobia in hip-hop and includes filmmaker Byron Hurt confronting some of the largest names in hip-hop about their homophobic attitudes). We welcome your suggestions for additions to this list.

While a resource list does not do enough on its own to centralise queer issues, we hope that our intentional inclusion of LGBTQII-specific topics, and our accompanying bisexual perspectives, will become more apparent over time as the content library grows. Included among these are plans for upcoming articles on polyamory and other non-traditional relationships and family structures, as well as “Women We Admire” articles featuring prominent sapphic authors and theorists. Due to the inherent intersections and linkages among different types of oppression, we are not and would never commit to suggesting a single-issue blog; however, some articles may be more focused than others on certain topic areas. We acknowledge both this directed concentrate as well as more visibly intersectional lumps as necessary components of our fight against all oppression in all its forms.

Once again, we welcome your suggestions for extra revolutionary/radical LGBTQII links, movies, books for our resources page, blogs for our blogroll, or article topics for us to consider. And thank you for voicing your curiosity, not only for your own sake, but for the sake of others who may be thinking the same.

Sisters of Resistance

After reading about the different types of players, I realize my “man” is a combination of them. He is most likely mostly a narcissistic abuser, but also part gangsta and Peter Pan. I think he’s actually got many of the players behaviors and characteristics and lies strike. I believe he has taken some of my things like hats, sweaters, a skirt, and very likely some of my undies to his “OG’s.”. I say this because he has “borrowed” my hat and never brought it back. I also say this because he has brought me a pair of seat pants and a pair of undies that he said were his daughter’s and that they didn’ fit her anymore, SURE they were his daughter’s! How sick is that. He must get some sick thrill of letting me know about his cheating without indeed telling me. You will not believe this, but he even left a used rubber packaged up in cellophane from a cigarett pack on my computer desk. I freaked out when I witnessed it because I knew it was not mine! He told me it was most likely mys dAughter’s! It had his pubic hair in it! He wants to let me know he doesn’t need me for anything and that he could lightly on out and find two just like me. He thinks that every woman wants to have lovemaking with him and he is ALWAYS talking about wanting another woman to join us during hook-up. Obviously I am not enough. He permanently checks out other woman and talks about what he would do to them and reminds me that he has enough for sharing. He wants to know where I am every minute-and likes it best when I am home with my kids, but I am not permitted to ask him where he is, who he is with, or when he is coming home. I could go on and on, I think I may even write a book. I don’t know if these are the kinds og things sistersofresistance wants posted, but I know they are happening to me, and I need to get free from this player’s control!

When hes out with another woman doesnt reaction phone all nite. When approached next day he says he was sleep, phone was dead/or on stimulate, or he left it somewhere.

Real talk. Thanks for adding in.

I have a fine example. I have been dating a man for eight months who lives out of town. I had known him for two years when he lived in my city. He paid me to fly out to Vail twice a month, called and text many times daily. He had been a Boyscout leader and avid volunteer and such a good dude. We agreed that we would tell if each other if we embarked to date and agreed not to have hookup with any one else (several times). I’ll spare you the details but he made me feel so special and that what we had was so special I was falling in love with him. He had already stated he loved me several times. The passion was off the charts. He introduced me as his gf to many people in this town where everyone knows everyone else. I commenced to pick up vibes from these people in the last two weeks and one vapid out said “See Out!” While in the van to go back to the airport the last time, I was telling the driver why I was in Vail. He said “I’ve heard that exact same story from another woman who said she was in a committed relationship with a stud that works at the same place and is originally from the city you are from.” Exposed! I found out that he not only had been witnessing her the entire time, there was a third woman. All of us lived out of town. The angels must have been in the van with me that day. What are the chances that I’d be in that van with that driver and strike up that conversation. Saved! He is very angry of course that I found out. I just wish I could let the other women know, they are a emotional and physical risk.

I wish you were my parent…You would have saved me from a lot of b.s. back in high school.Now,I’m presently living with the cheater/abuser and suffer from developed depression.

This Entire article is describing my kids father down to a T and a lot the information given here have been just theories of mine.Now I know for sure I’m not crazy after-all!

It’s sad that I’m so isolated and it seems like none of my ‘friends” indeed understand what I’ve been having to deal with for the last five years…

And it’s kind of scary the doll he cheated on me with repeatedly,she knew about us,is now studying psychology.And she is one of the reasons why I suffer with insecurities daily!I swear if she becomes licensed my hope for humanity will come to a finish halt.I would put her name (_____)here,but that will just give publicity she doesn’t deserve.lol*

Love every bit of this article, in fact, I’ll write somethign about it in my blog.

Keep them comming, cheaters have to be stopped, even if I’m a man, i’ll say this noisy and clear: Don’t hurt others, if you don’t like whose with you, face him and let her be free, no one needs to suffer because of cheating.

That is all we women ask for the truth nothing else and also let us go so we find someone that will be worth us being with….

No matter what mine wont let me go I have two kids with him and he will haul my but to court every chance he gets so ill liberate every thing and go back so I stay so I don’t have to deal with it to me its more ache to leave than not leave it bothers the hell out if me but its a choice I gotta make to keep my women and trust me he will win not a bad mom but he will dig for every detail of my life till he wins

I’m so sorry to hear of your situation! Attempt to protect yourself and do what is best for your ladies. There is help out there, you are not alone!

Dude, you rock! Truly wish more boys were like you!!

I undoubtedly feel since I’ve been cheated on more than once, all these are good examples. Another example is if he’s always cleaning his car out, his truck out, bringing them to get “random tire rotations” that take like fifteen minutes to do, but is gone for an hour and a half. Plus, if he all of a unexpected wants to work out, have fresh name brand clothes when before he didn’t care if they were Walmart brands, and has to have a prompt and sexy car that you can’t afford all of a unexpected…these are signs as well. Also, when he doesn’t brush his teeth when he’ll be a around you all day, but will brush them before he leaves the house without you, same with deodorant or cologne. If he can’t have good hygiene around you, but has to have it to be around his “boy friends”, something’s not right with that.

Uhm OK so my bf ain’t got no cell so he call me off his house he left on Wednesday. Telling he wass going over his boy crib but he still ain’t come home yet n he haven’t called me ( he had lived with this gf well his ex now Fah two years they broke up like three months ago n he has some stuff over there now we had got into it like last week cause he called me thinking he was calling her) you think hes cheating on me with her?

Sorry to say this but yes. He has given you no reason to trust him and every reason to suspect him. Dump him already; he’s not worth your time, love, energy or attention. You deserve better.

Wishing you the best,

Okayy thanks i have another question my friend needs help she was talking to this boy she realy liked him me her n my other friend went to chill with him n his guys he was cool at very first until he got toasted n he disrespected her n us he even attempted talking to my other friend infront of her but when we went home my other friend wished his brothers number so she asked him for her n he thought that she dreamed it so he commenced calling her a strag n other names n deleted her off fb so ny friend determined to talk to his other brother is she making a bad decision?

My fiance certainly has a history of being a player type. I have this terrible feeling that he’s cheating on me, but no physical evidence. We’ve only been having hookup about 1x per week (because I am not a very sexual person) and he permanently complains and is angry with me and telsl me how hard it is for him to only have hook-up that often. He used to be a big party boy, and worked out permanently but stopped going out to bars and working out awhile after we began dating. The past few weeks he has been going out to bars a lot with his friends, dressing up when he goes out, and working out like crazy. We scarcely talk anymore and he uncommonly initiate telling “I love you” anymore. In addition to this, he has a journey coming up with a lot of his single friends. He originally told me he was going with his little brother and then I found out he was going with one friend from work and recently found out he was going with a GROUP of single man friends. I do not know how to confront him because I have no physical evidence and when I’ve confronted him about other lies he’s told me about things besides cheating in the past, he tends to be the kind of dude that will have an excuse for EVERYTHING, even if you have the evidence in his face. To make matters worse, we live together and he has no where else to go, what should I do?

I’m sorry hun. It does sound like he is cheating on you. The entire going out to the bar/working out all of a unexpected thing is a massive crimson flag. He has no reason to commence caring about his appearance like that if he is in a relationship with you and you are fine with the way he looks. The excursion with all the single guys is a definite deal-breaker. He lied about it for one thing, so you already know there’s something shady going on. As your FIANCE, he should respect you enough to say, “hey guys, I’m sorry but I’m in a committed relationship and I just don’t do that anymore. I’ll catch up with you guys when you get back and you can tell me about it.” You deserve way better than that and there are guys out there who would be respectful of your feelings and not do those things to you. Get rid of this fellow!

Anther way to tell if they are cheating on you is when they tell you that you are crazy when you tell them you eyed them do this or that or heard them say this or that to some woman. They are very quick at attempting to make you think your eyeing or hearing things that you didn’t see or hear and that your just crazy.. Typical cheating man

My bf & i was coming home from dinner last nite we were having a conversation about how the weather been strange that day. he says hey did u see the size of the sleet when i was talkn to u on the phone. i said no i didnt i didnt talk to u on the phone today. he said oh i must thought u did. he said he was just confused on what day he talked to me. is he cheating

You are exactly correct. I went to Rehab came back home stronger than ever, found copies of e-mails to my best friend,” I need to come service you, I take it back I am harmless”. His exact words…Then he says I am crazy and he will tell our children how I turn things around and exaggerate. Also, said” Why don’t you come over and give me a rubdown”. Also said, he was going to Destin to see our daughter and said, why don’t I spend the nights with you and the days with her”.

I am so sick I can hardly function, however he could never make me drink again. He says he loves me and does not know why he said those things. Also, he looked up an on-line dating service. Am I crazy/

My boyfrend would give me all hiss passwords up until he bought a blackberry, he then put a password on the fone and would not tell it me I found this suspicious because all his masculine frends had the password. If I asked him to let me look at his pictures or music so I could send some to my phone he would make the excuse up that he had deleted them. But he was always setting fresh pictures as his display picture on bbm, and often played his music with uptodate songs. He fresh the password to my phone and permanently checked it to see who I was talking to and what the conversation was about. Also, he used to tell me he loved me evry night he told me he loved me then all of a unexpected he said he diddnt like to keep telling me he loved me because his excuse was he told me too often.

I have a question. If my hubby tells me he does not feel like being intimate or avoids all together, should I be worried?

This could be happening for many reasons, but it is not a sign of a healthy relationship. It is usually something that is best treated with professional relationship counseling, so you can find out the reasons why he does not wish to be intimate. If he will not go with you to counseling, it is possible he could be attempting to hide something or ashamed of something. You need to put this together with other factors to determine what the reasons might be.

Wishing you the best of luck and hope you reach an understanding soon,

My hubby told me he does not want to be with me. Is he cheating?

My bf was have hookup with a lady I ask him and he’s said yes. That he told her not to call he’s fone know more and that he have delete her form he’s BBM but I eyed her on he’s BBM. Pls help me what do u think I can do abut dis?

DTMFA – Dump The MotherF*cker Already.

We don’t mean to be harsh but he’s cheating and you are in a bad relationship. Get out while you still can.

Good luck and lots of love,

I had been on and off with my honey but there was one time where I felt he was talking to other women behind my back. I determined to go after my man feeling I went through his phone and he had disguised some of these women’s names to make them look like they were someone else. I determined to call them to get to the bottom of this sure enough there was nothing going on but the fact that he lied to me was no ok.

My current bf was “in love with me” and i believed him! I moved into his house & everything! Now i’m five months pregnant with his baby and out of no where he determines he doesn’t have any feelings anymore and wants to be “alone”. I am still living with him because i have no where else to go and he doesnt want to abandon the baby. It isnt so awkward anymore but he acts like my bf still! He smooches me, & touches me, & even asks to have intercourse, he tells me he loves me when i ask him but says that he just doesn’t wanna be with me! I asked friends for advice and they said it could be the pregnancy that is affecting him but i think it could be more. He works late at night and has began fresh habits like smoking and so, and i feel he is different. He even has a lock on his phone now so i can’t see it! Could he be cheating?

So sorry to hear! Whether or not he is cheating (and it is likely that he is) you are in a bad relationship and you deserve to get out and be treated better. Are there no family or friends who you could reach out to for support? The longer you stay with him, the more he will be able to manipulate you. It is significant to separate yourself from him and to cut communication so he is no longer able to maintain emotional control over you. His telling he “loves you but doesn’t want to be with you” is a contradiction – he is telling two things at once. Trust your instincts and leave him. His dishonesty and failure to emotionally support you is a clear sign that he is not committed to your or your relationship, or to your child. You will be better off without him.

Please take care of yourself, and your baby. We are in your corner.

Sisters of Resistance

OMG, I hope she listened to you.

Thank-you so much for these articles. For the longest time, I thought there was something wrong with ME that I spotted all these crimson flags. Now I realize that it is ME. For whatever reason, I am attracted to the player. Perhaps to attempt and “fix” what went wrong with my very very first player.

I swear, the man Im “involved” with now has used almost all of the lies and exhibits many of the behavioral patterns discussed here. Im going to work on pulling down him like a hot potato. Dammit, I deserve better!

You are doing the right thing! We are behind you. You have seen him for what he is — now to untangle yourself from his web of lies! You do deserve better – much, much better. Wishing you all the best!

Omg that is or was the boy I was dating..

He would always think it was me just not trusting him…he then would deep-throat up, tell me we aren’t good for each other and I should find a boy he would put up with me….then I would beg him to come back…I’m attempting my hardest to cut of communication. I have to let go….

My bf goes to college, he acts differently now. we have been dating for over a year already, but our arguements have gotten worse. he switched his facebook password and doesn’t let me see the messages he gets. he reads, replies, and deletes them. When i get close to his phone, he gets angry and accuses me of not trusting him. When he is in college, he takes half an hour or more to reply… do you think he is cheating?

I’m going through the very same thing with the man I’m involved with also. He is wanting me to stir to Iowa and live with him, but he has cheated on me in the past and got caught because the women talked bout it on Facebook, he attempted telling me it was a joke, but after awhile when their is more than one women telling she has been with him , you know, and he had a naked picture of on e of them on his phone. We attempted to patch things up and get beyond his cheating. But he cant understand why I cant blindly trust him, So when women say things on facebook and I question him, he blows up and yells and tells me I’m craz and some kind of insecure loon.

He sounds like he’s no good. Emotionally volatile and manipulative! You don’t need that in your life. It’s good you are working to cut communication. Stay strong sis.

Cheater has more than one cell phone–to keep the ladies separate, and straight lol. He won’t mistakely react to wrong person.

Ive had a bad practice where my BF continually accused me of cheating and lounging and absolutely any and everything else that he could think of to hurt me and cover his deeds up, I guess, i later found out that everything he had ever accused me of were things he was in fact guilty of.. such a douche bag!

It’s common for cheaters to attempt to deflect negative attention onto you. Indeed good that you realized it when you did…better late than never, especially when it comes to getting out of a bad relationship!

You don’t need to take this kind of behaviour. You deserve better! The energy you expend attempting to cope with his cheating could be put to use looking after yourself and developing your own interests. We encourage you to get out of the bad relationship as soon as possible.

Ck history on cell. If you find a dating site, look for him on intimate encounters. That there I found a profile for my bf. I got I fresh 2nd number and texted him as someone else he took the bait. Stared at women all the time while we were out together. Hurtful painful distructive. No words can discribe the shock abasement and frustration.

How you can tell your man is cheating he never have any money to buy you things like he use to.also when he stop complimenting you.if you just got your hair did and put on a nice garment and you know you look good but he don’t say anything he’s cheating.also when he starts arguments for no reason then suck up on you and turn things around on you.when he makes comments like I don’t have to be here I don’t need you.and when he claim he’s working overtime but the money ant right. Be ware ladies

Hi, my beau moved for the 2nd time to Riyadh in SAudi arabia, and now lives in a compound. He moved last week. Since then, he attempted to keep int touch via texts, but no phonecalls. Attempted to call him on Wednesday night (which effectively is their Friday night) and for the entire night his mobile was ringing out, no reply. I found him next morning (he texted me at his time 9.30 am to say he was sleeping from early afternoon Wedensday night. He went to Riyadh that saturday, and according to what he says, he was working from Sunday. SO, he could be tired. Should I worry?…also, he got a 2nd mobile number (saudi) and switches the uk sim card (which is the one i text him on, as it is cheaper for me) with the fresh saudi simcard (ie: one handset inbetween fresh saudi number and uk number). he also has an ‘old’ saudi mobile phone. I noticed that in the evenings he only keeps the saudi sims,the uk sim (ie the one i usually text him, is not on a mobile. Before he left, we had ample argument, and he insisted he wants me and wants to marry me …. he is 52..am 40. We know each other as friends for over 15years, but only around 2as paramours and he is very difficult. Do you think he cheats on me. He used to say in the uk, that if a man is a cheater he has two mobiles…and now he is in saudi and has Two. and has dissapeared one night, etc…Why does he keep me here? Am i the flawless victim? Please some advise…. Thank you…

From what you have said, it seems to be difficult to tell. I would keep an eye on it and see if his behaviour proceeds to be strange. If he remains distant and not communicative, and doesn’t attempt to accommodate you in terms of keeping a phone available that you can call, these are all bad signs. Long distance relationships are hard enough without a playmate who won’t attempt their hardest to keep communication lines open. A truly loving fucking partner would want to be available to you whenever you need them. If he doesn’t suggest this to you, I would advise you to leave him and budge on.

Thank you for opening my eyes everything has been said in above is true I have noticed it many times with my ex bf and funny now he wants back and I reading this I don’t want him.

I was with my beau for three months and surprise we got pregnate. Our daughter was born the day after our one year anniversary. After about six months after our daughter was born he stopped calling me pretty and stopes providing me any affection and began going to the gym “so he says”… Well one day I asked if I could go to the gym with him and he said ok after he got off work. So I get ready to go and when he comes home he says he can’t take me cause he wants his friend to go cause he can only get one person in free well we end up getting in an argue ment and he goes by himself “so he says” shortly after he began going to the gym he dumps me… Iv had a feeling for a while that I thought he was witnessing someone but I never had any proof… So I was wondering what you think about the situation?

i knw he is cheating on me bt iam nt moved its in hs veins. Tho’ i’l hit back to the bone soon.

I lived with my bf and I have some problem with him – I can’t tell if he is cheating or not – I catch him talking with women and looking wiTh women online but he denied it and tell I’m creating a problem and I’m nuts even however I showcased him proof and never accepted his mistake ..

One time one lady wrote him email and say hi and ask how is he doing and he replied that everything is ok and blah blah

My mistake was I replied to her that I am with my gf he told me before that he was after with this woman before she even meet me but did not work out.

What I don’t understand is he wrote to this dame : the dame hijacked my computer – what was he implying ? Is he denying me that I’m his gf?

The lady replied that : I trust you I know it’s not you it must be your friend.

I was hurt knowing that this dame thinks I was just a friend with my own beau.

I love my bf so much but I’m losing trust with him for this.

He keeps telling he loves me and I am very significant to him but I have the feeling that he is just playing with my heart.

Pls.help me I need your advice..

should i proceed on with this man?We talked a few years ago but it ended becuase he couldnt leave his ex girlfirend alone he says the reason is becuase he knows that shes truly loyal to him and will arch over rearwards for him and hes scare to leave that for something else so we stopped talking but lately we got back talking and its been good but that dame is still in his life and he says that hes fully attempting to leave her becuase its just not there nomore the attraction but hes still frightened to and he wants to be with me. Hes attempting leisurely to tell her as he claims she comes over to his apartment still but he overlooks her he literally was on the phone with me while she was there disregarding her but she still wouldnt leave my fear is that while were together hes going to go back to her because hes done it before theyve been together for four years…should i even bother with him? How we talk and everything is ideal he says he just wants to embark something fresh with me but idk its like my mind and heart telling me two different things what you guys think?

My ex bf we were together for 7yrs 2yrs engage he cheated on me he ws incontact w me from the time he moved out bt what I didn’t know is he ws observing someone else I found out when she ph me by stealing my num off his daughter ph he lied to her about his where abouts he slept w me and w another woman and with her and then 5days later gts engage to her his mom died about 1mnth and 2weeks ago if a man can do that it means he doesn’t love any of us

Here is the easiest detector! Marriedz dudes who use the word “hookup” and “sexy” casually in their spoken vocabulary are prime targets for the cheater catagory. Faithful guys don’t even SAY the word. In fact, their faces turn crimson and they get flustered if a women even says the word around them. The more casual the committed man refers to “hook-up” and “sexy” in general conversation, the more cheating he’s up to. I have worked with numerous married fellows via a career, and I poked the one characteristic that separated the dudes from the boys infallibly. If he SAYS the word around other women, he will ACT on his word…ensured.

Well I walked in the room and he hit some button quick because what was on the phone switched . He let me use his phone later that night . I couldn’t get on my Facebook. And wished to get on his he said no. So I figured out a way to get on his and he had text a doll I know. Ask what she was doing that it was late and she HD to work didn’t see a reply . from her. But he, could of erased it. He said he was bored and he wasd only being nice

He is undoubtedly hiding something. We say don’t wait around to find out what. End it now. Good luck!

i just happened to read the articles, and i was truly stunned, everything in there indeed hit me, i thought i was just over analyzing things, i deciphered almost every word he told me and attempted persuading myself that maybe he meant every word and truly loved me, i was desperate and attempted telling myself that he is not cheating nor a cheater, he indeed played it well,we were in a long distance relationship and i was blindsided because he kept telling me those beautiful things, promising good things, talking to my aunts and cousins through email, meeting and visiting my uncle in canada, who would have known.. he was divorced with four kids and after just a few months of dating, he proposed, i thought it was quick and i havent met anyone from his family, he always say, his ex wifey is excluding him from their kid’s life, or he dont talk to her mom or brothers, it was a nasty divorce too, his ex wifey calling him names, i attempted talking him into reconnecting with his mom but still we werent introduced, gut feelings were telling me he is not telling me the truth but i accepted his proposal nevertheless, i admit, i just permitted myself into falling blindly inlove with him,and for a moment i supressed all the things that were bothering me and just went along with the “in love” feeling…he would be frequently jealous out of nowhere too, and even sent a message to my ex bf who is now cheerfully married, we are in good terms when we broke but we talk seldomly and have been good friends since, but he made a big drama about me and my ex bf so i ended apologising, my ex bf just disregarded it and was truly mature about it..fastforward, i already broke it off just three months ago, when lo and behold i caught him cheating, i dont know how long he has been doing that but it felt like it has been awhile, like i said i disregarded my gut feelings before but this time, there is a solid proof..im glad it was over, i can say that he was the worst man i had relationship with, and it makes me think or regret of letting go of the good guys in the past, this man made them look like angels..it was a long comment, i guess i was still in a recovery process, i get angry whenever i recall him,his lies, his manipulations, like i said the articles indeed described him,it made me realize i wasnt going through this alone, it made me feel less hurt..thank you so much for your efforts, it’s enlightening and most specially helpful to all women or fellows alike..cheating is a indeed truly dark side, it’s almost like a crime

I would like to know what if0 he deletes all his sms nd including mine and whatsapp and bbm conversations even mine?? Is he cheating?

Yea his name is Robert Anthony carrion he Spanish we have two kids together daughters he twenty six years old he Hispanic been off on four years he works in Indian restruantv

After a duo of months of dating, my man, who lived in a nearby town , accidentally sent an ordinary text to me addressed to a Karen. When I asked him who Karen was, he told me she was his sister. We hadn’t known each other that long but I remembered he had two sisters and also remembered neither of them were named Karen. When I informed him of this, he said he lied because Karen was just a friend and he didn’t want me to think otherwise. I said, if she’s just a friend there was no need to lie about it. I persisted for months not pleased he was telling me the truth until I eventually broke him and he confessed to having hook-up with Karen, but only twice (yeah right). He moved into my home with me six months after we met. I was so suspicious, I managed to get his phone records to detect he and Karen were texting each for months after he moved in. One month he went back to his home town to bring more of his belongings to my home. His phone records demonstrated he sent Karen fourteen text messages in one day, but vows he didn’t meet her that day (yeah right). I have never trusted him since.

I was recently dating a man that said that he didn’t have any phone signal at home, because he lives in the country. So, he will see me or call me before going up the hill which was usually before 9:00pm. From that time on I couldn’t reach him except for whatsapp. On weekends, he said he gave conferences on catastrophic illness, so I couldn’t see him for three weekends in a row. After the third weekend I admitted to myself that there was something wrong. Because he is a psychologist and has his cell phone on his website, I had a friend call him at a time he said he was at home and he answered the phone. Then I discovered he was lounging to me the entire time and is most likely living with someone.

ja i dod c wht i just read here n i think im in love with a player….

I have been in a long distance relationship with this dude for fairly sometime now. One time he accidentally forwarded me a conversation inbetween him and some doll, in the conversation he called her his wifey and told her that he was coming home to her. When I asked him who the lady was he told me that she was his cousin’s gf, and only recently I got to know that actually she was his gf. When I asked him about it, he said that she was now an ex and that he has me n love me. He has told his mum about me and before I learnt the truth he had introduced me to his father and siz as his wifey to be, actually according to the sister i am the very first lady he has introduced physically to his relations please help with urgent advice, should I abandon or should I stay,.

I have been in a long distance relationship with this man for fairly sometime now. One time he accidentally forwarded me a conversation inbetween him and some chick, in the conversation he called her his wifey and told her that he was coming home to her. When I asked him who the lady was he told me that she was his cousin’s gf, and only recently I got to know that actually she was his gf. When I asked him about it, he said that she was now an ex and that he has me n love me. He has told his mum about me and before I learnt the truth he had introduced me to hisn father and siz as his wifey tmo be, actually according to the sister i am the very first lady he has introduced physically to his relations please help with urgent advice, should I abandon or should I stay,. Am more confused about everything n truly don’t know what to do or what to think.

I have a bf who is in a good relationship with the mother of his three year old child.she doesn’t live with him she only comes and go. I slept over at his place twice wearing different underwears. I got a text after 4days telling “why did you do it?” I was taken aback by this question. he accused me of leaving “plain grey underwear” at his place. mine is grey and has flowers in the front. the mother of the child says it’s not hers nor is it mine. this means there is female no. Three that I don’t know about

The man I had been observing for eight months began to distance himself somewhat at the same time I was finding peculiar stains on his bed sheets.. I didn’t see him any through the week on account of my work schedule.. So.. He most likely did have someone on the side.. I also found in his bedroom a gigantic wad of chewing gum.. He doesn’t chew gum.. I haven’t been back to his house since… I deleted him out of my life..

He’s called me, tho’, and asked me to “come visit”. I told him that what I found at his house made me enormously awkward.. The stains- one of these stains was period blood, mind you..the chewing gum..

He said i assumed a lot.. And that he’d been by himself this entire time..Hmmm.. Since when does a stud have a period?

He doesn’t reaction his texts right away, when he does he has some reason why he couldn’t get back to you. Always texting I love you, I love you, I love you, thank you for loving me, I love you, usually right before or right after he’s cheated. Liberates track of time. Says he’s running errands will be back in a duo of hours six hours later shows up and is defensive or gets angry when questioned about where hes been what hes doing. They attempt to confuse you, gaslight you into thinking it’s you, your crazy, insecure, dont let them get in your head. We are very powerful as women and our intuition guides us. TRUST YOUR GUTS. Statistically only 7% of boys will ever come clean about cheating. Once trust is cracked the innocence is demolished in the relationship. It’s pretty much a dead end. Tho’ THERE IS THE OCASIONAL EXCEPTION, DON’T FALL INTO THAT TRAP. YOU DESERVE BETTER.

I feel so heart cracked, I am married for twenty years me and hubby used to be so close, talked for hours, we work for ourself and he could not wait to get home. Now last two months he works every day, even weekends, at night he only comes in after 6pm. We hardly talk to one another and when we talk it is work related and it finishes with him swearing. We do not go out anymore we just stay hime doing nothing, he will sit and witness tv hardly touching me, it feels if I am in a cell, working every day, cooking, taking care of our kids, it feels if no one is appreciating what I am doing. I am longing for him to hold me and just tell me everything will be okay

so my boy had been together when we were junior like fifteen yrs ago I left him because I felt like he was cheating and come to find out I was right. since then I moved on and began a relationship with sumone else but our relationship went sour after I was being accused so late2011 me an the very first fellow embarked bk talking and those feelings from when I was junior bloomed back out my intentions were to hurt him like he hurted me but my feelings go to deep. found out he had been incarcerated since eight well I looked over it but I began being there emotionally and financially met his children and kicking off being there for them aswell after our we begin to begin a relationship again and he was just released and we had all these plans on doing things he wants to stir out of state which is fine and wants me to go aswell, I told him to give me a year now he needs money cause im not going to support him I can say everything he has gotten since released he has broke bread but he just left out of town yesterday and hasn’t called me at all didn’t let me know he made it there safe neither has he called to say hi or anything. I texted that to his phone and his cousin’s phone and never got a response so does this mean im not as significant as I thought I was or am I over reacting? does that mean he with another woman/.? when I call it goes straight to voicemail damn am I on call block so when he comes back he can just say he wasn’t getting good reception? what do yall think cuz im bout to break up with dude cuz this aint right like wtf

Trust yourself, and don’t be fooled by excuses. If he cared as much as he said he did he would find a way to get a hold of you and let you know. I wouldn’t hold wait on him, and commence focusing on providing yourself the love you have been spending on him and making him a part of your life. You deserve better. Good luck!

Yeah he is cheating on me via whtsupp tlking two me nd tks long time two rply

My ex-boyfriend kept canceling plans last minute due to “work.” I did the math, some weeks he claimed to be working ten days in a row over 8hr shifts at a time. Then one week he worked a day shift, graveyard shift, & another day shift within forty eight hours. I later found out he was sleeping w/ his boss and had another dame on the side that was his former roomy. Prior to me finding out, we eyed the movie “The Other Woman” and I recall him calling the lead masculine character a jack and empathizing w/ the female characters. Ugh.

Please can these be more proofs that a man is cheating…he restricts you to one line of social media say whatsapp only((doznt add you up on instagram on twitter even wen you ask him).Cuz dats exactli how my man is and when I went out of my way to check for him,wot I aw wasn’t impressind at all(hez instagram is on private and his header on twitter is a woman’s butt).We’ve been datin for precisely 5mnths n he doesn’t even want to rili know me cuz I hav a lot to pour out to him;When I asked him why he says he likes surprises and he doesn’t want our relationship to get boring quickly.Albeit we went out recently and all and then all of a sudden that same day not less than 3hours he embarked to strange way of talkin to me or hardly even talks to me

I am a fifty five year old female. I am or was in a relationship with a fifty nine year old masculine he is a fully rotating liar and why I don’t understand he calls himself a minister but he is a habitual liar all the time. I understand why he doesn’t have a church. His penis is three inches he has no teeth no money he can’t rise to the occasion the lovemaking life is dead why did I give this loser any time of my space I will never know he lives with his sixty five year old sister and helps take care of her and the other sixty three year old sister. he did not give me anything but a headache. He would always flirt with other women. But I don’t understand if he is not functioning down below why is he pursuing women. And he has false teeth I didn’t know any of this until later in the relationship. And he loves eating cunt but I won’t let him eat on me due to different types of viruses that can be ingested and I know he most likely does it on all the other women he has relationships with. Because he has a very petite penis and can’t rise to the occasion. My regrets are him meeting my family and attending my church.

Been with my bf for over Two years. Recently he’s switched. He’s jealous and calls me names. His friend bought a plane a month ago and since then he’s been there non stop

Noticed when he calls he’s either outside or in the bathroom. Have heard a dame in the background but he out right denied it. Also rushes telling love u like he doesn’t want too. I’ve found porn on his phone recently too which is a very first (we always play on each others phones) and he denied that n said he didn’t go onit. Hes Become more interested in his appearance and going out. I don’t know if he’s cheating as he vows he never would n indeed want to trust him. But I find it hard when he has to b away from his friends to talk to me

Hi. I could tell you a hundred ways to spot the signs from private practice, but would like share three other sources. 1) Today I got to witness Eddie Murphy’s “RAW” showcase again from one thousand nine hundred eighty seven (which includes some foresight on Bill Cosby’s persona and Two) Chris Rock’s three combined shows. There are some hard truths there as to how and whyif you want a laugh but are open to hearing a man’s fair perspective. Three) I don’t know why but over the years I’ve noticed women disregard this big one-IF A WOMAN DIRECTLY ON INDIRECTLY TELLS YOU THAT HE IS HITTING ON HER ,IT IS 99% LIKELY HE IS. Don’t be POd and take it out on her .. She is doing you a favor by providing you a goes up on what he’s up to. She is not your enemy, she is your friend. GET RID OF HIS Culo.

I have many questions that have been on my mind for so long and I indeed wish someone could help me understand a little more about my relationship.

So on Christmas Day I looked at his pictures of him and I on his phone. I was thinking maybe we could post something lovely on Facebook, like Merry Christmas or something. So I came across a picture of a dame that looked somewhat similar to me but at the same time we looked downright different. I began tearing up instantly afraid to admit something might be happening. So I asked who she was and he’s like I don’t know I thought it was a picture of you. I was speechless. I had no idea what to believe that moment. So he embarked howling with me attempting to make me feel better and apologize for it. But if he looks at our pictures all the time and we’ve been dating ten months how could he possibly think that was me?!

Wow!! That was a wake up call, time to think about moving on if I respect myself

My hubby of fifteen years has done all of these things. There is also a few more not listed. He will come home late at night or Two, three am telling he was out with his best friend and that he has issues he needed to talk out with him. He will say he has another job so he only has a brief amount of time to sleep, and he will still want hookup from you. He will claim he had E.D and may see a doctor for a prescription, however the prescription will be taken when he isn’t with you. He will tell you he loves you one minute and tell you to stay out of his business the next. Last but not least he will sneak out to a public place that he use to take you but now he turns down to take you because he is meeting another woman there, and the kicker he will have photos of her on his face book.

My beau invites me to drive with him to run errands, but due to me being ill I had to stay home warm. He chuckled when asked if he would be home after 3-4pm, he said, “that’s so late…I will be home way before…” Also make a note that I was sick with a cold and had a fever and figure aches. He leaves at 7:30am then we text at 12:30pm and he says he’s gonna be home soon. I texted him a few times in the span of three about hours, then ultimately called and left a voicemail(I never leave voicemails), then I determine to text his daughter (she’s a teenager) (which lives with his ex-wife) and asked of she had heard from her Dad in the past duo of hours. She said, “no, but let me text and call him” she messages me back and says he picked up her call and says he is doing fine. Now I say to myself, “why is he picking up her call and not mine. ” Something is wrong here. When he got home, eventually, I was coy and he said he fell into conversations for hours with his family at their house and his phone was not at him at all times Because it was dying and he attempted charging it. What you think?? ��

My bf and have been together for seven years and since the beginning when he would come to my house and we would hangout he would always say I had to get out of my house too much drama . I would ask what kind of drama he would reply ahh bullshit and switch the subject.Then one day he pops up all sad and I asked what happened he was quiet At very first but then he said my ex keeps coming around with other guys asking me for money talking shit and causes a big scene and even When he is chillin at home watching t.v. she will just showcase up and go inwards the house attempting to act cool with him . I stopped him and said you know she proceeds to do that because he must be back and forward with her as well and he had to go home and let her know its over or attempt to work it out.he left I didn’t see him for about six months and then he came by and we have been together ever since but I’ll tell you one thing it didn’t end with chantelle cause then I heard from people here and there about a Kathy then a Angie back to chantelle.I be seen Angie driving in circles for no reason I don’t under stand how these women pursue someone who has a chick and two kids I know where stands and he doesn’t get away with much when it comes to being able to spend time with these women but why do they wait around as if one day he will ultimately be there’s. I mean come on ladies serious what are you a napkin for him stream off in a way for him feel like a teenager for a few minutes two of are pretty and got it going for yourselves as women who have been cheated on shoved around and used we should back each other up not kick one another down or help him find ways to vocally,physically, mentally and emotionally manhandle his family at home just because it happened to you.

I would love to join this fight against lies to help promote self love and fair relationship s. Tell me what I can do?!

Ok.. fiance of five years embarked being rude to me few weeks ago. Even when I remained nice and bought him food and anything else he needed/wished. His conversation with me has leisurely lessened and whenever I attempt to say anything or have a ordinary conversation he never looks at me and doesnt reply. Just resumes with whatever he is doing. And when I say his name and get his attention he gets frustrated and argues with me. Says he doesnt feel good or he’s just hurting. Had embarked keeping his phone in his pocket but few days after I mentioned it to him he stopped doing it. But just embarked playing music with band about forty five mins from where we live. Very first practice he got there at about 12pm and didn’t get home until almost 10pm. I know he was there from 4-5pm until around 8pm but other time I do not know. Recieved maybe five texts from him the entire time and his excuse to why took so long switched twice. Got home two hours past time he said would be.

Had 2nd practice today but didnt make me aware of it until three hours before he was supposed to be there. Told him to call me when got there so id know he made it but he texted me instead and didnt reply to my texts until Three, almost four hours later telling he didnt have chance to text me back and was talking to band member about practice. Called me half hour later when was heading home.

I could hear random noises in background buthe got ill with me and said I was crazy that he had window down/hit fuckhole in road/radio playing… when these sounds happen at different moments and sound totally different and i can clearly tell the radio is muted…. its my car lol and car wont be in movement and I hear door close but he tells me in crazy or he’s at store when he just told me he was on open up of road that literally has not a single store….

Not sure if any of that means anything… ive just got a feeling theres something being kept from me..

sorry if this is too much for some to read but…

Last time he had lovemaking with me he desired me leaned over (usually wants me on top or missionary) he also dreamed it that way a few times before that.. but few weeks now he hasn’t touched me, looked at me sexually, asked me to help him get off, and he hasn’t displayed a single sign of absolutely anything that pertains to that… only thing of mine he shows attention to is my phone… looks through it when im sleeping.

Can someone help me understand what I need to do or whats happening…?

He has an excuse for everything and is one that would deny unless proof was found… and might attempt denying still…

The opposite of what was mentioned in the blog: When he’s very vague in his excuses, and says very little so casually, his tone alone is meant to make you think it’s nothing when you know it isn’t. You know you’ll never get more information. He’s a cool customer. He can say little to nothing fifty times if he has to.

When your damned instincts tell you is lounging!! (sorry, I know what it is to be the totally in love and totally in denial woman who is hurting herself staying with a stud and I want this to penetrate). If you don’t have a history of documented paranoid/delusional behavior, you are most likely right. You’re not crazy NOW. If you want to stay like that, stop denying what your own senses and built-into-you-fight-or-flight-reflex tell you.

And please, don’t actually HAVE the evidence and overlook it like you think it’s never going to happen again. It always will, and you will not respect yourself anymore when the dust lodges.

When he has a built-in schedule issue that permits him to go out of contact. I know there are guys to whom this happens, and I hate to penalize the ones with a legit excuse for the deeds of a few, but this woman has learned her lesson. I don’t date a stud who can lightly give me the excuse, “I was on tour (with my band). I can’t help it if I can’t get a text in an airplane flying over the Pacific (or when I get off, nor does it make sense to me to just assume you might have attempted in all those hours, since I know I was out of contact),” “I was in the mineshaft….digging. It’s what I do!!” “I was on call (a doctor, for example).” “I have my son/daughter with me, and because of this I can’t text you back ALL weekend (how many of us with kids feel like we can’t text someone back at all or we’re being horrible parents?)” Someone will date those guys, it won’t be me. Work is always considered the most noble excuse for anything, and you’re straight up attempting to undermine him in a crazy way if you rival with it for his attention, which is why it’s also a brilliant excuse for being with another woman. He’s off on a spy mission for God’s sake, don’t you care about your country.

I figure that I have a life and responsibilities also, if I can be into him and excited about him enough to want to call, talk, text, see him, it’s not asking too much to see him do the same. Why should I be the only one whose passions don’t just bottom out like the milk leaked all over the grocery bag and it tore away? Sometimes it’s hard to keep the faith because it seems like all love is increasingly more and more makeshift and we all just want a moment that feels beautiful to last, but I am learning to look at like this: If it’s going to be makeshift anyway, no matter what I do, then what higher good am I possibly serving by staying with a fellow until he ruins me downright? You can’t martyr yourself to create allegiance in someone else, trust me, been there, done that, doesn’t work, and it’s less than anyone should want. When it comes to dealing with how he he leaves moist towels on the bed or is always ten minutes late, I’ll work with it. When it comes to accomplish betrayal, or flat-out manipulation and control issues, I take that from any person, friend or paramour, ONCE.

Also, when he gives you his schedule, and then it just “switches” and all of a unexpected, he’s in that mineshaft 2-3 times a week. They have him working something like one hundred twelve hours a week, it’s illegal and physically unlikely, but that’s always where he is. Liar, cheater, bag of douche.

My bf will call me before he comes over, usually ten minutes after his shift. Last night he texted me ten minutes after he got out telling ill call you in a minute stunner. Blue called, came over and I checked his phone, he called a number right before me. So I looked the number up on Facebook and it belonged to a dame. He never mentioned anything about it, should I be suspicious?

My future ex bf is a cheater. He all of a sudden began working 19-20 hours a day, lost his fresh place and is sleeping at his office, and works from 4am to twelve am with a thirty min break in inbetween. The only time I’ve seen him in the past two weeks is to loan him money or bring him lunch… he is so dumped!

Hi I’m with my Bf five yrs but recently caught him talking to a dame on pm Facebook and I mailed her n told her he has a gf n she mailed me pics of them in a bar the night before her in his knee n him smooching her cheek all took by his fone wen I confronted him he said he needs a break ..so we did for a week and ni I’m finding it indeed hard to trust him he’s always on his fb takes ages to response my mails wen it’s telling he’s active do u think he’s still talking to this chick

my fucking partner keeps storming out the pub if we have a disagreement then goes back to hull for the night so he says is he cheating

I actually need help attempting to figure out if my man is cheating or is planning on cheating on me my man is 60yrs old I am 35yrs old we have a baby doll together we were best friends for 5yrs but now have been in a relationship now 2yrs living together and we have a excellent hook-up life but I have concerns big time he told me a lot of stuff about his past relationships with woman he would cheat on them sometimes he would have two chicks in one night after being with another dame that was suppose to be his gf I was so shocked and astonished about this he never carried himself like a player but I honestly thought by him telling this to me that he is not about ready to cheat on me why tell me how he would get away with it for so many years of he plans on doing the same thing to me anyways my question is this he is sixty and he can slightly keep from spunking with me we have hook-up a lot too we do different positions we do it in different places he always gets hard just by hearing my voice but now he was telling he wants to get his muscles back a little and wants to work out so he will have better health anyways is this a possible sign he may wanna cheat or has cheated and wants to look good for her or is it possible he is telling the truth that he just wants to stay healthy for him and for me and for our daughter he says he wants to be around for fairly awhile I just don’t know what to think some signs you spoke about he does but the rest of the signs he does not he also always says his ex’s are his past and what he would do to them is in the past I am his present and he is not like that anymore he also claims he loves me very much that he wants me in his life always and our daughter too he also says he is too old woman are not gonna wanna have lovemaking with him he is old and also nowadays woman want a man with money and he has money but he is always broke after paying our bills pretty much he is telling woman don’t want him he does not have money so what do you think ? What should I believe? And once again is he heating on me already or is he planning too ?

Im, having issues with my bf, he always take his phone call away from me and delete his text messages. Don’t want to discuss any real issues with us. Never affection towards me only when he wants lovemaking and dont touch me even then .i tell him what I want but infrequently get it from him.

I met this stud having a galfriend n his galfriend was pregnant then i determined to live him coz i couldn’t take it anymore to be a sitechick. But he begged me to be with his because he has lived the mother of his child. So now he always make some private calls n when the mother calls he says she was only talking about the baby. Am confused gore is he working things out with his babymama

I met this stud having a galfriend n his galfriend was pregnant then i determined to live him coz i couldn’t take it anymore to be a sitechick. But he begged me to be with him because his no more dating her as she tld him that she found someone. So now he always make some private calls n when the mother calls he says she was only talking about the baby. Am confused is he working things out with his babymama?

I must agree with all you have said about fellows who cheat in relationships. I just relaxed myself of one who continually say’s he is not eyeing anyone else, yet when I call him the conversation is brief and discrete. Always have a cover-up when I question him. You are so on target

Yeah, I used to have a relationship with a man who would dangle out with me and then he would vanish for two weeks he was homeless and I only attempted to love him. he had friends who cheated or slept with hookers so I knew he had the same mentality he was just so different that’s what attracted me to him he recently since this year stopped going on his facebook and everyone has been attempting to contact him and he shut off his phone so that it says its not accepting calls he is also on a dating site so ladies be warned let him know you wont put up with it even if he wont act on as a friend he will still consider you female and he will hurt you even if you consider it that Do you think hes in a relationship?

I agree cos my man is in prison nd hes cheating with the mother of his child ,when i ask hes telling im always thinking negative . Hes calls are more than before cos wen we talk over the phone , i can hear the calls that are coming in . I want to leave him but panicked of hurting my feelings cos i love him .

For example he behaves giddy as if a kid around the woman who has a fucking partner & he will ask you She indeed loves him, don’t you think? A big one, he commenced there & went to buying several Trucks, things he didn’t need & no such thing as paying the bills & I got robbed three x in my car, life savings & he didn’t even come to the hospital, just packaged, boxed up the stuff left and put in a storage & then my son got on him & dropped them off at my Aunt’s who is delusional hoping she would take me in. Needed a very bad surgery and seemed to leave behind all about it . Indeed he got like bisexual polar manic depressive

My bf sent me a group text message. It was sent to me and one other number I dodnt know. It was to tell me he got a painting contract

Would a man send a group text of he was cheating?

Or would he have sent us two separate messages ?

He knows I would see the other number and when I responded to the text the other person would get my reaponse too!

Starts an argument for no reason so he can storm out and then that way he knows you wont call him so he has a few hours to do his filth!

When he comes back he’ll be chewing gum and/or with a fresh packet of chewing gum!

– has another phone that you never see. Creates hiding catches sight of!

Me and my beau used to be friends on fb then we blocked each other now he wants to friend me I said no so he don’t want me on fb at all but he’s staying on with just family he deleted everyone else what does this mean

I too can add on to this. About Two.Five years ago, my mother’s cousin fly to the US for a meeting not far from where I live. He trickles money and is very wealthy. We had made arrangements to meet on a Sunday to have lunch and walk around the mall with my teenage daughter. Long story brief, my daughter needed to go to a youth program the evening before so I booked a room at the hotel where he was staying. He an I met for dinner and had a good conversation. He accompanied me to pick up my daughter and we made plans for the following day. All was cool, we went shopping all day and he even bother and my daughter several expensive gifts. We parted company before dinner but he and I determined to have dinner again the following Wednesday evening. I cried the entire way home because I one had been so kind to me in at least twelve years. I was married at the time but my marriage was steps away from divorce. Anyway on Wednesday when I got to his hotel he was waiting outside for me. We went for a walk and he put his arm around me. At very first it made me a bit awkward but I didn’t think anything of it. At dinner he took my arms looked into my eyes and told me that he was divorcing his wifey and desired to be with me. Looking back I could kick myself, but at the time it was flattering to have the attention. I had to leave around eleven pm and he walked me to the car. I recall this as if it was yesterday because I had never in all my life felt this way. He hugged me goodbye and then out of the blue said “smooch me” so we did. Not only did it take my breath away my knees were powerless and I couldn’t speak. He asked me to stay the night and I reminded him that we were both still married even tho’ I was separated. I didn’t stay with him. He went to the bar and drank a bunch of shots and beer so he could sleep so he said. I have spoken to him everyday since then.

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