Long Distance Beau Asks for My Raunchy Pics

Published on: September 25, two thousand sixteen

Question asked by Rose – I am presently in a long distance relationship. We are about seven hours away from each other, but we can overcome it.

So far, the longest relationship I have ever had is always less than three months. And my current relationship almost reaches three months. what should I do to keep my relationship healthy and work in long term?

I’ve never been sure about man like this before. But it’d be hard since he looks like a sensitive type.

I have done all tips you ever mention here, except the visits. We share our pics, and also call each other. Anyway, what should I say on the phone? Because sometimes I can get so timid and he also talks less. It would be weird if I asked him about pets, hobby, etc. like you mention here, because I already know them all.

And the last thing, it’s funny when you say, “Guys instinctively have a protective attitude towards a pretty female; guys it’s as if they want to protect her innocence.” My beau finds me beautiful, now I wonder why he sometimes talks raunchy and wants to make love with me? So he thinks I am hot instead of being nice?

And what should I say when he wants to see my pics without ‘hurting’ him? I feel a bit awkward, because he asks for it like in every few weeks, and i only have two of his pics (since he doesn’t have camera).

Long distance relationships are challenging but workable provided the both of you stay true to each other. If you have a feeling that he is the “Mr.Right” for you, then all you need to do is concentrate upon deepening the relationship.

It’s all about shifting levels and getting closer at heart, shedding inhibitions and limitations is a part of the journey of becoming more at one with each other.

Visits are critical to a long distance relationship and you would need to think about make it feasible. It’s best that you ask him to come over, so the two of you can go out dating for a day or two. Once he visits you a duo of times, you can also go on and visit him else he will feel like he’s the one making all the effort.

Running out of topics to talk about

A major problem with long distance relationship is that with time you run out of things to talk about. So even tho’ you indeed love to talk with this person, you can’t find things to talk about.

Even the most loquacious ladies and guys run out of topics to talk about after a few weeks. Most guys are not good at phone conversations because it’s difficult for them to express themselves through “voice” alone. So it’s normal for guys to talk less over phone.

This is the reason why it’s so critical that you engage in “visits” at least once a month, because the physical interaction acts as the leverage during the period when you are away from each other.

There is only so much that you can talk or talk about. Have you noticed that couples that stay together don’t truly keep talking to each other all the time, majority of the time is spent in muffle and it’s comfy because they can see each other, but when you are on phone “silence” can be a killer.

If you call each other daily, it’s best to call up at night and talk about what you did the entire day.

Ask him what he did through the day, go into the details of everything even if it seems trivial and then give him a detailed account of everything that you did through out the day. This can be joy if you are willing to be detailed about petite aspects of your day to day happenings.

It’s strange but something “new” always happens everyday, we just miss it because we don’t concentrate on it.

Talking raunchy over the phone

Coming to the 2nd part of the question, yes it’s true that a boy does have a tendency to feel protective towards a female who comes across as being nice, sweet and babyish, but that does not mean that he will not have sexual attraction towards her.

The fact is that guys are more likely to fall in “love” with a adorable, or beautifully pretty, female than with a dame who gives off the “hot female” vibe – excessive make up, brief exposing clothes etc.

With a lovely, modest and pretty lady, guys tend to fall for her beauty, feminism and tenderness very first, and this instigates emotions of love and care within them. They tend to be protective and caring towards such a lady. This does not mean that they don’t want to have hook-up with her, but now it’s not about “raw lust” but about love coupled with sexual attraction.

It’s entirely natural for a dude to talk raunchy when he’s in the mood, but lovemaking is not the only thing he thinks about when he is in love. When a boy is in love, he is interested the girl’s company per se and lovemaking become an extension of this closeness.

Sharing Pictures

On the subject of sharing pics, yes it can get awkward for a woman to share her pics especially when the relationship is not a “done” deal.

There is so much misuse going on over the internet that it’s better to be on the safer side until you truly get to know the dude inwards out. Of course, there is nothing wrong with sharing your pics with a man you trust totally.

If you don’t want to share your pics presently, when he asks for your pic just tell him playfully that you are not going to share anymore pics until he comes and meets up with you.

Tell him that you want him to see you in person instead of ogling at your pics. If he insists, just joke around with him and tell him that you have made up your mind about it, that you won’t share anymore pics till he meets up with you.

In conclusion..

Make your relationship joy and don’t get too serious. If he is the bashful type it’s best that you be the source of “coolness” in the relationship. Be funny, be effortless and be romantic when you talk to him. Don’t judge him and don’t analyze everything he says, reminisce that’s guys are pretty bad at voicing themselves especially over phone.

Communication is the key to a relationship. Let him know that you find him to be your “love” interest, tell him that you find him close to your heart and that he means a lot to you. Get the love flowing, get playful and attempt to connect with his heart.

Encourage him to open up with you and let him know that you will not judge him for anything. Be open and be unconditional in your acceptance of him if you want to sustain a long-term relationship.

Concentrate on his positive aspects and things you love about him. If your love is deep and focused, life will take care of the rest.

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